Chinese man's common sexual life mistaken idea: Pay attention to the frequency of sexual life excessively

Chinese man's common sexual life mistaken idea: Pay attention to the frequency of sexual life excessively
The core is pointed out: The couple nature disharmonious overwhelming majority of life is not because of disease or physiological obstacle, not also a psychological problem, often because one party or both sides have some mistaken ideas in sexual standards, contradiction and conflict that just cause the concrete behavior to have. Here, mainly talk about several kinds of most common sexual standards mistaken ideas of men of China. First, excessive pays attention to number of times and frequency man of the sexual life there is a kind of public opinion, it seems that number of times of sexual lives is the more, the more qualified this man is, there is masculinity; The more satisfied, the happier his wife is. Conversely, the husband with less number of times is said to be " wait upon (or can not deal with)ing Wife " ,Considered to be " It is angry not to enough for men " . In fact most wives do not think so, the affection exchange compares with sexual life, to 31 surveys of couple of large and medium cities 1279 (the following figures are according to this investigation) according to the expert ,78% of the wives pay attention to the former even more, instead of the latter. Simple the intersection of sexual life and number of times and the intersection of sexual life and quality (what orgasm wife can win from it) Comparing, 85% of the wives hope to obtain high quality, but not large quantity even more. The man's practical experience of life of sex is not " The more, the better " . Probably between 30 and 35 years old, over half of the husbands experience one's own sex demand has been changed silently in fact, also from needing large quantity to transfer to and seek high quality, hope to obtain deeper emotion communication and experience. Just because of this, if the man thinks in idea, the frequency of sexual life is couple's harmonious main criterion, even the only standard, then he will probably produce the fault that two kinds of behaviors will be had. First, he may ignore or deny the emotion demand of the wife, makes the sexual life simple, become a series of movements, the serious one will also injure the wife's personality and emotion greatly. Second, he may aggravate one's own psychological burden virtually. Once relatively old, or meet the special circumstances accidentally, can't keep the high frequency that he thinks, will suspect oneself to have " Impotence " , " premature ejaculation " "disease " ,Will fear " Unfair to the wife " ,Will even suspect on one's own whole personality and goal in life or disappointed. As a result, the eager to excel in whatever one more does, can't stand the accident. In fact, the man's sexual life frequency level, it is basically determined by physiological state and age, the various nationalities in whole world are similar, and almost in every man's life, will less in some period all, and some many period, discuss " whether how many times does it should have " at all Such a question. The man's sex glamour mainly lies in ripe individual character elegance, understanding rich thick mind and emotion are deep and persistent. If the training of these careless respects, but care about boasting frequency simply, then man's difficult mistaken idea that steps the sexual life. Second, excessive to act on under particular particular situation of couple skill of emphasizing etc., the extremely appropriate sex skill will have beneficial function. But we can't forget certainly either, there must be 4 most basic preconditions in the sex skill: First of all, couple must be absolutely voluntary and really needing. Otherwise, not only infringe the other side's dignity of human personality but also will cause the psychological injury of both sides, will certainly not produce the good result. Secondly, couple's emotion must be quite good. Third, the levels of both sides knowledge and attitude to sex must be very identical. Fourth, the using skill must examine and prove its applicable scope in clinical medicine strict science. The nonconformity, any of any couple's emotion and knowledge are heard and mediated a settlement and had half knowledge on the way, the will all make ing skill produced opposite bad function. Especially an important one is, sex skill neither produces the love and feeling deeply concerned, also difficult in order to fully communicate and exchange. In our country, at least over half wife demand appreciate the intersection of sex and skill of husband either. They repugnant husband regard oneself as a certain especially" The tool " Or " stage " ,There simply the man " Use " Or " perform " . In this case, couple only know the lack of mutual understanding, indifference and even conflict day by day. Every happy couple know, superfine, common " sex skill " ,But movements but soul in fact, and true feelings that care about throw into and concentrate among the sexual life as many as possible adore, have a sentimental attachment for, not intimate. Third, too understand narrowly the sexual life, in couple life, men will ejaculate finally, but this is not all contents of a sexual life, it is not its primary goal. The sexual life is the carriers which expresses the love. It must include psychology preparatory stage in advance, and the quality of final result, depend on that preparatory stage is appropriate to a great extent, it is abundant. Some husbands regard one's own physiological course as the first, not adjustable, the result is often too eager, rude and simple. In the urban couple in our country, the person that has never kissed each other accounts for 1/ 4, the ones that have never kissed deeply have exceeded half; Do not stroke accounting for 41%~53% of the wife at all. But meanwhile, 83% people think one's own marriage is very satisfied with or more satisfied. Therefore, it is not the husband that does not love the wife, but he will not like, emphasizes the final physiological result excessively, but ignored the course that mood is prepared. Compare horizontally, some couple of high culture, high emotion, almost there are 100% and often almost have touch behavior of all kind. They really regard sex as a kind of life, are regarding as and " making love " But not finish the physiological task. This is undoubtedly favorable to the marriage and stabilize and raise the quality, is worth recommending.

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