Chinese teenagers educate and store the forbidden zone in adolescence 90% of the parents hold and does not know

Chinese teenagers educate and store the forbidden zone in adolescence 90% of the parents hold and does not know
The marine university law policy institute of China carried on a questionnaire investigation to 5 universities and 800 undergraduates in Qingdao a few days ago. The result reveals, two large main positions educated in adolescence - -The families and classrooms have not played a role in there should be ing, as to " route to obtain sex education " ,The proportion from school and home education is very little. Today, a lot of families and schools still turn-take under the baton of the exam-oriented education, seldom pay close attention to the child's psychology and emotion in adolescence. Then, why to educate in adolescence not paid attention to enough? The 1 health education exists " The forbidden zone " At home, 90% of the parents pretend not to know " this matter " ,Have not told child anything; In the school, it itself Knowledge 2000,last a young girl of infanticiding cases Beijing Haidian District one school. A 17 -year-old Senior Two girl, it is very outstanding to study, know the knowledge difficult to understand, but does not understand the secret of the body. She and a boy walk very near, pregnant in a daze, but ignorant. Because to cover up winter clothes, parents and teacher find, think the the intersection of child and development too fast only either. She is pregnant in 7 months, have physical education once, the stomach has sharp pain, sent home by classmates. Parents had not come off duty yet at that time. She twists and breaks the umbilical cord, throw the already living early newborn baby outside the window after bearing children alone, the neighbour finds the baby has called the police very much. In the adolescence in life, she is sentenced to two years' imprisonment the reeducation through labour. After 10 years, this incident still provides food for thought so far: This child pays the heavy cost because of the ignorance, but who bears responsibility for her ignorance? "Where do I come from? " During one's childhood, the children have mostly typed a curious question mark. "You pick up. " Parents' answers mostly adhere to " Avoid " . Enter adolescence, sex development has been around the topic that is not made already. "But, who has told children, you are in the period, prove you have reproduction ability; Who has told children, the ovum is arranged into the oviduct, in what case will combine with the sperm; Who has told children, through what way is the sperm entered the body? " Researcher of Chinese Academy of Social Sciences Sociology Research Institute an old a Jun says, as to these physiological general knowledge, parents often take great pains to guard a secret, take " ostrich's attitude " . The investigation finds, 90% of the parents pretend not to know " this matter " ,Have not told child anything. "As a result, some children do not really know the truth. " Old one Jun say " that know, she have pieces of prevention, in close association with boys at least, distressed, it is known what behaviors can not be done; In case pregnant, know that should go to Gynecological and Obstetric Hospital to check and deal with; Know even if a baby, can not either be gone to murder. " "At present, the school educates in adolescence, the majority is that a pupil of junior middle school pays attention to the hygiene lesson. " Citizen of Shandong Jinan Mr. Zhang remembers: "On my son hour of last the second day, the school freed captive animals to pay attention to the healthy CD for them. Having reached the high school, perhaps is afraid it will bring out the calf love, sex education becomes the forbidden zone. " "At the adolescence such as we, physiological hygiene lesson talk about there, teacher say say, go back to see by oneself. " An old a Jun was said, the environment was simple that year, it was simple too for people, so came over sillily and sillily. However, the young people of today grow in one totally different world. The popularization of the network, mean young people are exposed to picture and characters related to sex all day. Parents do not say, the school does not say, the child has impulse of the sexual behavior before getting ready, the impermissible behaviour unavoidably takes place. An old a Jun was introduced, at the beginning of the 1990s of last century, World Health Organization held the first AIDS conference in Asian-Pacific area in Zhuhai. Closing on the dinner party, a WHO officer says meaningfully, China should watch out for AIDS and spread - -Because the not health education of the sex in adolescence for development of China. Disease that serious as one kind to spread through sex intercourse, AIDS is extremely apt to attack teenagers, because the sexual relations happen early, can not keep an individual character companion in all one's life. And is one individual character companion more, many channels of a infection. Today, in the west, AIDS has already knocked open teenagers' gate, 1/3 of the ages of person who carries HIV are under 24 years old. China with a population of 1/5 of the world's total, it is necessary the alarm sounds continuously. 2 emotional education exists " The blind area " Horse add rank of nobility incident fatherless example, by extreme the intersection of form and exposed the intersection of our country and adolescence health education, affective education, disappearance of education that love the tragedy Several years ago, the horse of third year university student in Yunnan added the rank of nobility to kill with 4 boys in the bedroom, sentenced to death, cause the society to be in commotion. When public opinions generally think it is social unfairness, poor tragedy that the horse adds the ancient wine vessel with three legs and a loop handle incident, professor of Jiangxi normal university Xiao Jiang Zheng goes to Yunnan to investigate the details on a special trip, inquire after the deep reason from another visual angle. Horse add rank of nobility very poor family have, study very diligently, two ear hear the intersection of window and foreign affairs, friendship, love try. Having reached big three, a girl in he is in unrequited love with going to work, but wonder how to express, then write the love letter. Hold the party in the class once, see this girl come into the classroom, he fills the love letter in over flurriedly. Girls read and did not read, tore in public after getting the love letter. This lets the horse add the rank of nobility and is stimulated deeply, but not enraged him, he has not killed this girl either finally. Then what is the reason that he kills? Jeer at, speak with 4 boy of bedroom with this to him sarcastically constantly. "The poverty has not knocked down me, what I can't stand is the insult on personality, I have just written a love letter to this girl, I have not done anything wrong. " In his eyes, not most qualified shame of these 4 people - -They men and women have unrestrained relation, " they degenerate " . He can't bear standing, makes the stupid choice, a kind of mistake that punish with a kind of crime, perish together finally. 5 young lives floated to die, brought the pain of injury forever difficult to heal to family, leave society the deep and huge torture. "Horse add rank of nobility incident fatherless example, the tragedy expose the intersection of we and adolescence health education, affective education, disappearance of education that love by extreme form. " An old a Jun thinks, the horse the reason why happens while adding the incident incident of the rank of nobility, an important reason is that his adolescence is not too good, he did not do in spring during spring and should do " Desensitization " --Exchange the contacts with opposite sex, relax the nerve, lighten the pressure, strengthen self-esteem and self-confidence. He does not understand opposite sex, does not know how to release one's own sex pressure, no one guides for him - -This kind of education have few discussions in university students too so far. The horse adds that girl who the ancient wine vessel with three legs and a loop handle is in unrequited love with, lacks affective education too, has injured the heart of a sensitivity doing in an oversimplified and crude way. An old a Jun is said, the young boys and girls entering adolescence are because of the function of hormone ,Begin to produce the curiosity, mystique, feeling adored and even in unrequited love with to the opposite sex. As to this? China wishes the star Zhyuan Eight Huang � of � The liver of peaceful �� Xi ��'s bits suffers from the page �� Pole �ѧ� N �� Spit of fland of young Yu �'s nice food The ancient piece of jade is own to escape from � in vain? Who has told boys, how should you go to express this kind of emotion, let oneself be unlikely to be too awkward, unlikely to lose self-respect, let the other side not turn out too ashamed? Who has told the slim and graceful young girl, because of your ability and intelligence, or because of your appearance, personality, a boy or more than one boy may like you, adore you. They can express to your feeling, this is their right. You can accept, can refuse too, but appreciating that deeply grateful to them. If accept how to deal with the friendship with them? If refuse, in what way to injure the other side's self-respect, not lose one's own poise? The youth is a section of rapids, need leadership of the navigation mark. Spend adolescence leading young boys and girls' health, security, the responsibility that and the school should bear that it is the family. Unfortunately, nowadays the child's psychology and emotion are guided in adolescence, in most families and school education, a blind area. Education existed in 3 adolescence " The difficult district " Parents know should how say school school timetable too full to arrange, enter, accomplish personal secrets and pertinence while being difficult, lack well-trained professional the intersection of teacher and old one Jun, speak one she in blue and green the intersection of apple and thing that experience personally under consulting room even more. A mother comes to consult anxiously: "I 11 -year-old son what's happened, is the diary written so terrifically? " An old a Jun take over diaries, write above: "I base and I obscene, I unfair to teacher, I shameful. " An old a Jun lets mother bring the child, please go to the consulting room to chat alone. Ask with what classmates he is better usually, which teacher like? While asking the teacher, he can not keep calm: "I always dream recently, dream that flies a kite together with English teacher. This woman teacher is very sexy, I want to chase her, embrace her, but not run into her yet, frighten waking up. " Then he says again: "I still dreamt about embracing and kissing with the deskmate girl, in fact I did not touch that girl! " After having these dreams, he accuses and anxiety very much, then write on the diary. Understand an old a Jun, this child is like teenager of all adolescence, appearing illusion, having dream. "Congratulations child,you grow into man. " An old a Jun takes out the wall map and tells him the physiology in adolescence, psychological change. "Will take place these each phenomena persons of classmate,is it only you may healthy a bit, development, early a little. Sex dream, sex illusion are one's own personal secrets, neither need telling others, nor need writing in the diary. " After he finishes hearing, forgotten slowly. Having found out about child's puzzlement in emotional development in the heart of hearts, parents understand why the son has a stomachache once having English lesson, have had no class; Why always adjust the seat, do not want to join girl of the deskmate. "Nowadays, family and school mostly still turn-take under the baton of the exam-oriented education, the child's psychology and emotion are probed into few to adolescence, even is still numb to existing accident, tragedy. " An old a Jun points out worriedly, Chinese families of today are mostly only-children, if the only son and heir has gone wrong, the second child does not makes up. Parents are the first teacher, the family is the first school. Educate as to adolescence, why do not parents talk? "It is the idea that adheres to past practices at first. " Old first Jun say China in cultural environment that first individual character confines in more than one thousand years, sex development is a sensitive topic. When parents are young, nobody tells them, has " learnt without a teacher over for generations, why tell child? " Secondly, the knowledge is deficient and scarce. A lot of parents do not really know either how to say. A mother sees the 11 -year-old son pass out semen, feel very awkward, say: "Son, how shameless you are, want to put down the wife so small? " Make the son feel the shame deeply, it is tense and dreaming, frequently pass out semen to get to sleep later, the body comes down in half a year. " many parents expect to educate and remedy in the school in adolescence, it is in fact difficult! " An old a Jun is analyzed, on one hand, the exam-oriented education high pressure of the school, the school timetable is too too full to arrange in. At present, pilot schools such as Beijing, Shanghai, Tianjin,etc. have already offered this subject, but most schools have not arranged. On the other hand, adolescence the intersection of health education and personal secrets of involving etc., and development of child have, have late early, different. As the public educational place, it is difficult for the school to accomplish personal secrets and pointed, this is a realistic difficult problem. In addition, the normal colleges and schools of our country have not set up the speciality that adolescence nature has educated yet, there is no teacher well-trained enough. These difficulties, have caused and educated the omission in the home education in adolescence of today, likewise absent in school education. (reporter Li XiaoHong)

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