90% of the career persons complain everyday The expert claims passive mood influences the health

90% of the career persons complain everyday The expert claims passive mood influences the health
"Have classes that can not finish adding, there is thing not finishing forever, still let people live? " "One is as two people use, why not pay salary of twice? " "Have a meeting everyday, irritated? " On the on-the-job field, we can hear such complaint every day nearly. They look like one kind invisible " The virus " ,Spread unconsciously, form terrible ones and is defeated by the energy " black hole " ,Engulfing our job ideal, working enthusiasm, goal in life, even influence the development of our career. 90% of the people complain in person's on-the-job field everyday, this or that and less than satisfactory, then complaint rises of itself. 14 years ago, Xiao Li of good character and fine scholarship graduated from university in a state-owned enterprise of the less advanced. Though is a state-owned enterprise, benefit is not good, wander up and down on the edge going bankrupt all the time. She complains anxiously every day: "Why should ' God's favored one ' such as me graduate to face the danger laid off? " Later, she jumped to an enterprise run by the local people just established, there is new complaint: "Why is the salary so low? " Later, she job-hopped again, the foreign enterprise that became flushed with success managed high, but still grievance was towering: "The treatment is good, but the pressure is large! So many people keep watch on seat of me, I must even can't relax one quarter, get married, give birth to time of child even! " Different from Xiao Li, it is irritated to depend on Lin for intricate interpersonal relationships. Work in the trade union of the unit of one organ in accordance with Lin, should often have dealings with every department. Has just reached the unit, she finds here is overstaffing, the relation between the departments is complicated and delicate, it is implemented that work that arrange for very much difficult, the task can not be finished finally, the fault is always dropped on on oneself. "Well, it is really too difficult to do to work! " This sentence has become her pet phrase. The data show, with the increase of the competition pressure, " complaint clan " Number huge. An investigation regarding the career person complained about the state reveals, nearly ninety percent of the career persons will send out and complain every day. Among them, 65.7% of the people complain from once to 5 times every day, 13.8% of the people complain from 6 times to 10 times every day, 4.8% of the people complain 20 or more times every day, only 11.2% of the people say oneself has " never been complained about " . Complain more for give vent to depressed to undoutedly, everybody have complaint heart. The dissatisfaction which the job market has is mostly from income, realization blockage of the out-of-balance, self-value paid, interpersonal relationships are baffled. The investigation reveals, 74.7% of the career persons say oneself is complained to be mainly for giving vent to the gloom of heart, and hope through complaining the proportion of solving the problem is 36.2%. Career expert think work occupy most of the time of every day such as people such as career, and is packed with the contradictions in the routine and need career people to rely on one's own ability and efforts to solve, coordinate. In this course, once can't accomplish the equilibrium of heart, complain that will escape one's lips or flash in the brain, when this kind of contradiction is accumulated to and can't be discongested, career people will find that has really become " auspicious sister-in-law Lin " oneself . The greatest use of complaint airs one's grievances, can not expect it to really change the current situation. Much complaint person complain, stand low salary and have post to promote the chance at all one day several year, the ones that also avoid as everybody fear that was inferior to " Ten thousand people dislike " . Complaint transmits the person who shoulders energy complaint, the reason why likes, because will make the listener fall into the impatience of mood, make oneself, also make the people around lose action strength. No matter what you are complaining, you are transmitting a kind of negative mood. "As to tissue, this is a kind of ' virus ' extremely easy to spread on a large scale, it will corrode and organize healthy ' the organism ' seriously, the ones that produced enormously were defeated by energy, influenced the normal operation and future destiny of the whole organization. " Career psychologist think " the intersection of job market and the intersection of complaint and most loud danger lie in the destruction to working atmosphere. The atmosphere that modern organization has all paid attention to group's cooperating, the cohesiveness, linking up strength among the members of group has determined the fighting capacity of organizing. The destruction of the working atmosphere will result in organizing the decline of fighting capacity directly. " The expert points out, too much complaint will bring the negative influence to people's physical and mental health, do not stop complaining to others that will leave a very passive and negative impression on others too. The professionalism is very important in the on-the-job field, positive and positive mood and behavior are the basic quality that the career people need to possess, also helping and pushing pharmaceutical of career people's job development. The career native can give out the energy of positive front at work, among life, take, complain for aspiration, but should the intersection of ground and passivism reply simply just. The tinkling of pieces of jade is reached and in for more than one years all the time " Blame while working " State. A colleague of her office left office last year, actually needed 3 jobs that people finish to fall on the shoulders of sister Zhang. Sister Zhang's child is young, the tinkling of pieces of jade reaches and has to undertake more work. In order to finish the task on time, she often works extra shifts or extra hours, has one's mind filled with complaints too. Complaint is complaint, the situation does not have any change. At last, she realized the complaint privately was of no use, then knocked open the boss' office straight, demand to add and send hands. The boss is very surprised: "I had thinking all the time it was enough for you hands, how did you say earlier? " One week later, the rookie puts in place, the tinkling of pieces of jade reaches " freeing" at last . The thing that the tinkling of pieces of jade reaches is not an example. A large number of fact prove forever is more sophisticatedly than to complain positive effective way of communication. Find the key personages of the question, reflect the question with the gentle attitude, ask the other side to solve or assist to solve - -This's the best solution to problem. (Lin Zi)

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