The difference of the China and Western love fairy tale is large Psychological doctor: Chinese-style men wait to save

The difference of the China and Western love fairy tale is large Psychological doctor: Chinese-style men wait to save
Attract our love fairy tale to often announce the illusion of our ourselves game criterion to the sexual relations most. Document / psychological hospital chief physician Lu Lin of China and Germany Western fairy tale: Reflecting male strength beautifully and kindheartedly, the pure and lovely princess is envied by the stepmother, ordered to remove in the dark. A deep kiss of charming prince has abolished the magic, the princess has been saved. Princess and prince lived a happy life from then on Western classical love fairy tale that child and adult in whole world all dwelt upon with great relish, " snow white ", " sleeping bueaty ", " Cinderella ", " beauty and the beast ", " lettuce ", " frog prince ",etc.. A lot of people heard the story of prince and princess as a child and fell asleep slowly, become a protagonist in a fairy tale in the dream too, go to pursue one's own happy love life by oneself. What let these stories attract us so? And " snow white " , " charming prince " Become the ideal prototype in our love taking as own duty especially? Let us read these classical love fairy tales again together, we will find woman protagonists are beautiful, kindhearted in these western love fairy tales; And man protagonist either prince, or the knight, everyone is handsome and graceful, the identity is honourable, have ability. Oh, this accords with we ourselves who are idealized who are perfect very much! Continuing reading these stories, we will find these women protagonists are mostly persecuted, it is a stepmother sometimes, it is a witch sometimes, even the identity is honourable, it is unable to shake off. They are very weak, need saving, need it protection. The helpless beauty meeting with misfortune, this can stimulate the man's male hormone very much. And those princes have ability, they can well act persons who save, positive in the setting-up of the relation, bringing out the best in each other passively in this and woman protagonist sets up in the relation. The most important one: The all willing lovers of the princes have resources to share him. So once establish the relation, results of the fairy tale are all that they lived happily from then on. The fairy tale of Chinese style: Certainly China does not lack the classical ancient love fairy tale either to full of tragic color. Just it seems that we are more willing to tell children the western love fairy tale now. Perhaps we can realize the difference among them. The Cowherd and the Weaving Maid are one of the most famous popular legends in China. Developed into the present edition gradually later, this was an origin on Valentine's Day of China in the seventh evening of the seventh moon in lunarcalendar too. And the story of the Jade Emperor's fairy maidens and the poor peasant Dong Yongs of daughter seven is known even to women and more children because of tight phoenix's Huangmei Opera " match of the beauty " that Great Britain stars in. Ancient the intersection of love and fairy tale that is widely known by the people have the intersection of " the the intersection of conch and girl " and the intersection of " the white the intersection of snake and biography " and the intersection of " the the intersection of ginger and daughter Meng " and " the Liang shanbo and YingTai Zhu ",etc.. In these Chinese ancient love fairy tales, woman protagonists are all so beautiful, kindhearted, basically all real fairy maidens, not basically all ordinary persons. They not only have magic power, and take the initiative in the setting-up of the relation, though they can't let the husband become immortals, but would like to give up the immortal's identity status, is willing and can let the husband enjoy the ordinary life created by one's own magic power. They act the persons who save, while objecting to it in her parent's home, they still insist on one's own love. Where are and those men protagonists? We do not nearly all know their feature, their appearance is unclear, the identity is petty and low, poor and underdeveloped, without resources, without ability, it is basically unable to change too; Mostly the orphans, more retarded in life, always disliked and avoided by the mother-in-law, but they are kindhearted, honest, duty is filial, single-minded; Though is passive in the relation is set up, act the person saved, would like to accept the woman protagonist's resources, can improve viability under help; And as the love is threatened for hour, they can express and resist, but will not give oneself up as hopeless. The fairy tale of love is basically tragedies. Why do Chinese-style men always wait to save? The China and Western love fairy tale is so different, the Chinese-style fairy tale not only can't be immersed in happy illusion by people, let people feel constrained instead, feel heavy, that modern mothers have not quite said to the children. China is the man right country, the man is not poor, weak why is in the fairy tale, it is bad, not only can't protect and save women like that as the prince knight, otherwise wait for women to save instead, otherwise bully women? Perhaps Jung is right, unconscious that this comes from different and national collectives, relate to culture. In fact, this most overbearing man right exactly, use to throw - approve morbid state, the Chinese man is feeling self-humiliation like this in the prototype, it is the woman's initiative pursuit that has the ability to have resources that need, low-key complete devotion, they accept safely. From these children's stories, can see very obviously, the western collective is unconscious to reach one of Pu Sri Lankan Di in Russia, the still growing one of China, men are not ripe, whom he needs in the love one can train, protect and nourish his mother, but not one needs him to represent the really weak girl of male glamour. Very competent, very low-key, still pretend to be weaker, show due respect for weak man's feeling, is known as " virtuously " this culture in China .

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