How is Chinese child's education in the charge of mother The father love is lacked into a general question

How is Chinese child's education in the charge of mother The father love is lacked into a general question
It was Father's Day yesterday, the topic about father became the focus again too. The reporter knows in the interview, are influenced by China's traditional social idea and the rhythm of life one is accelerated, the children of a lot of families' educational problems are all in the charge of mother at present, it is comparatively general that the father love lacks the question. The expert points out, the role of father in the home education can't replace, father is on intimate terms with the child as many as possible, character building and sound development which contribute to the child. "My son is 5 years old this year, his father is often on business, have gone out for two weeks of ten days, there are a lot of dinner parties when being not on business, go home very late, usually the sons all fall asleep. In the morning, or the son stands up first and goes to school, his father is sleeping; Otherwise his father has already gone out, really sit for time to stay together little. Now, the son is obvious and his father drifts apart, thinks whether father in matters, we are very helpless too. " Ms. Wang that a public institution works says in Jinan. "The intersection of nowadays and kindergarten, primary school, middle school, when turn on parents can, the majority of attending the meeting is students' mother, someone say jokingly parents will bes " Mother has a get-together " ,What communicate with the teacher is mostly mothers too on ordinary days. " Li Hua engaged in educational work in Xining says. According to one of the Municipal Women's Federation of Beijing's investigation, are responsible for what the child educated in the family at present, mother accounts for 70.2%, father only accounts for about 20%. The infant, education expert of Shandong, Dong XuHua thinks, it is a more general phenomenon of Chinese family that the father love is lacked, trace it to its cause, mainly and the intersection of China and traditional " man, mainly outside, woman mainly inside " Thought have something to do. "Even if enter the 21st century, this kind of idea still generally exist in young people. " Dong Xu says flower, such traditional idea and culture are appraised, bring the pressure greatly to man, after especially marrying and giving birth to babies, can pressurize for oneself economically often, it is the important responsibility to support the family, but educate children to totally give to the child's mother or grandparents. "Present child, most personalities are weak, dependence is strong, the boy lacks masculinity, the main reason should just lack the father to teach. " Parents Liu Ying who the child has just gone to the kindergarten says, " in addition, mostly all woman teachers kindergarten, in the primary school, it is very difficult for the child to establish the man's images and models in mind. " The network addiction in Shandong give up and manage the expert Meng SuZhen to think, father represents infinite strength and strong depending on in child's eyes. Father role's reduction and disappearance, will bring psychological sense of insecurity to child more or less. Father education and maternal instinct educate the education that is combined together to be the intact home education. If father fade out to care and guidance that children grow up, careless to study and know modern the intersection of home education and knowledge, very disadvantageous to the child's growth. Dong Xu flower say, show according to the intersection of WHO and latest research results, can coexist with father every day on average more than child high in IQ two hour, the boy looks like the little man even more, the girl understands even more how to associate with the opposite sex after growing up. And the psychologist finds, affective disorder of those children not getting enough father love is very outstanding through the investigation, move, rely on anxiously and lonelily and wilfully and more, the self-esteem is low, self-control is weak, the aggressiveness is strong,etc. the phenomenon of the behavioral defect is comparatively general, even all concern with the bad habits and customs after growing up certainly. The psychologist has proposed in view of the above " Lack syndrome of father love " This concept. Expert think solve the problem that the father love lacks, a important one father want, to the child more time most, many and the child is on intimate terms. Dong Xu proposes flower, no matter how busy, father should specially spare two or three days to accompany the child as consciously as possible every week, no less than 40 minutes each time. "Even if just having a walk, chatting will play a very good role. "

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