Chinese child is accused of having no place to reduce pressure Parents do not always say - I am for your good-

Chinese child is accused of having no place to reduce pressure Parents do not always say - I am for your good-
March 17, one is " June 2, 1988 " at the a little rich Sina Net friend send by every one is rich a little,within a few days, let's transmit into 9695 times, attract by 2561 comment. This piece a little rich to tell Fujian some student in Senior one have a class, play with mobile phone, call Mr. the office, abuse, jump out of the building suicidal a matter finally. In a little rich, still allot the on-the-spot photo that a child jumped out of the building, a scene of bloodstains make the person so horrible that one could hardly bear to look at it. After being criticized by parents and teacher, such extreme behavior that commit suicide, it is not the first time in Chinese students. Someone is sorry for these children, someone criticizes them for resisting and pressing ability too bad too, but a lot of people have ignored, they are only a child. Each child yearns for the life of the positive sunshine, hope to hear the praise of teacher and parents, do everything possible to do one " The good child " . Making a mistake is abused, will cause enormous setback sense and pressure to their psychology, there is no place to give vent to at one time at this kind of pressure, the tragedy may take place. Compared with the children of the other countries, Chinese child " studies the pressure biggest " , " the happy index is the lowest too " . Can regard as adult, our pressure to them once patient to listen attentively to, treat conscientiously? Whether we help them to look for and get rid of the method of the pressure sincerely and hard, let them get back to the sunshine? " this is second child's suicidal incident which I hear recently " It is a child's suicidal incident, people's regret that they let, let the five flavours in the heart mixed oldly too, it is anxious, grieved and angry to mix. Researcher of Chinese teenagers' research center, Deputy Director Sun YunXiao is after hearing a reporter tell that a little rich that have this incident, a long time of silence. Then, he opens one's mouth slowly: "This is second child's suicidal incident that I hear recently, just not long ago, a student in Senior three of a school of Heilongjiang is unsatisfactory because of a mould of examinations, also jump out of the building and commit suicide. " In 2010, Sun YunXiao has ever specially searched for " college entrance examination commit suicide " in news of one hundred degrees These words, the result obtained is more than 4000. Every piece of news, representatives are all a life. Also there are students, though has not come to the dead end, suffer from various spiritual diseases, this proportion is growing with each passing day too. Present child, though does not worry that worry that dress, always one kind can not see, can't touch, but ubiquitous " The stealthy pressure " Spread around them and grow, let them unable to laugh heartily carefree. Yan Heng was an obedient child while as a child, but diagnosed as the personality obstacle now, have become a patient of department's hospital of brain of Hunan Province. In impression of him, listen to parents, school grade it ranks the top ten to be thing that must must accomplish, for this reason, mother seldom shows the smile about him. In Yan Heng's home, he has not said "no " Right,even refrigerator of the switch want firmly rule. One day, achievement of him test enter the top ten, face of mother colder moral integrity. He wants to talk to mother, but the final topic always falls on the criticism to his achievement; He receive grievance in school, go home, dare, say, will reprimand a severe one either, only the good achievement will bring mother's good attitude. It is long, he begins to lose the things, hit parents, suffer from spiritual disease until being diagnosed. An investigation of Beijing Normal University has been found, 340 million teenage philtrums of China, the proportion of student prone to unusually psychological problem is 16.4%, about 5% of children have serious psychological behavior problems. The investigation indicates, the Chinese child's location of suicide rate ranks the top in world, 24.39% students in middle and primary schools once had " finished one's own life " that flashed in Shanghai Idea. And take shape and compare with such high suicide rate with, it is in the child with psychological problem, can accept psychological consultation, people to discongest pressure, little little. Three major reasons let children have no place to reduce and press " minors are the biggest disadvantaged groups ", and ' weak tendency ' mainly reflects this one on the psychological crisis. " Sun YunXiao says, the origin of the psychological problem is actually a pressure, the reason why present so many tragedies, because the child's pressure can not be released after all, there is not the place that reduce pressure. First of all, the child's pressure has not got parents' attention and understanding. Most middle school students touch " The pressure " This word, mention parents at first, " the largest pressure is that the parents stipulate one of my ways, but does not consider my interest specialty " ," parents only see the result, the non- heavy course " ," the pressure of family economies is the bigger, parents' expected value to me is the higher " But most parents think, " studying is their task " ," what we do is all they it is good " ," need not worry about food and clothes, young yes some pressure " Parents understand child nobody communicate, psychological pressure will collect together large, thus lead to the fact some extreme incidents happen. Sun YunXiao says: "A student because can not resist parents and send him and enter the continuation class of the vacation, while having the first class, take poison dead in public in the classroom. " The urbanite psychological health sample investigation of our country that the psychological research institute of Chinese Academy of Sciences announces newly reveals, the child, from 12 years old (the first day) At the beginning, the psychological health index drops year by year, 16- 18 years old (the stage of high school) Teenagers are the lowest colonies of psychological health level. "But their pressure has been often ignored by parents, teacher. " Sun YunXiao says. Secondly, judge the hero's educational environment by mark, let children have no time to reduce pressure. Fu Qiang is a Senior Three boy, enters the achievement of the school very good all the time, it is very diligent to study too, after entering Senior Two, for not dropping the places, all use for reviewing at break when he stipulates noon and in the evening. However, he of the brain long-term in tense state, can not endure to college entrance examination to go wrong: Hear that there is notice of having an examination, dream snakes in the evening, cause his achievement to decline to an enormous extent. Sun YunXiao says, this is manifestation with too big psychological pressure. Sports, and the friend play, has stopped up the channel that child's psychology excretes to have no time. In this respect, achievement the better students, the more psychological problems appearing are. Third, there are too few professional personages who can help children to mediate psychological pressure. The executive director of Chinese teenagers' psychological development base is happy and carefree to tell reporters a group of data: 20%- 32% of the teenagers have anxious mood in Beijing alone, but five province professional personnel engaged in children's mental hygiene in North China do not exceed 100. Some universities have though set up psychological consultation or coach the centre, the majority lacks the psychological consultation teacher who receives professional training, the psychological consultation form is single, the content is rigid, pertinence is not strong. The disappearance of the professional organization lets the children's psychological problem unable to be got. Home is the best place to reduce pressure If parents Can when the child got deeply stuck in psychological crisis,it support they,go by love, it last the lonelinesses of they, know than the speciality? Man's peaceful Chen's skirt �ʦ�� Yi disrespectful W Keep fit and extensive chlorine hold in the mouth the intersection of ���� and distant �� climb, regret � Strong in with the rose male Yin of Li of Qiang Xian's coffin? The child's bad mood must be found in time. Happy and carefree to point out, these bad mood and behavior include: Often bully classmates, destroy the communal facilities, for example trample on the lawn, apply on the wall arbitrarily drawing etc. arbitrarily, like, bite pencil or finger, unidentified reason have a stomachache or oral cavity ulcer, absent minded, etc. If present these phenomena, prove the child is bearing the pressure, heart is anxious. Parents should intervene at once, must not wait. Should understand anxious reason first, encourage, understand, affirm and support children from emotion, put the unhappy thing on one side, choose the thing liked to do. Secondly, can breathe deeply, run, help them to release the pressure out with child. Embrace more children before 12 years old. Ins of Developed Organisms,Academia Sinica, psychological health Dr. Shi ZhanBiao, director of service centre point out, the child's inner world is cultivated by parents before 12 years old just like a piece of land, cultivated by themselves 12 years old later. In the past 12 years, even parents were busier, should accompany the child every day, listen attentively to every question of the child patiently, talk with them like friend, embrace more children and could train the correct parent-offspring to depend on the love sense, child's happy sense after growing up that increase. Five sentences can't say. Happy and carefree says, what the child expected most is the parents' affirmation. Parents' a word, an expressions, expressions in one's eyes may let children produce the pressure. Advise parents to say these five sentences: " it is so bad to do in the test, you think others are better than you " , " not all right if I say that not all right " , " such a simple question is not known either " , " this of ours is all that you are good " , " someone has gone out to play sum " . If parents often use such an expression way, may cause two consequences: First, the child produces resentment, rebel against more and more; Second, nothing is said, until making some extreme things. Every thing of relating to child, should all discuss with them. For example register the interest class, parents can't dominate with full authority, child must have the interest and agree, will become the child's pressure source when forcing. In addition, Sun YunXiao calls upon, school and the society should adopt various methods to help children to unload psychological pressure, for example set up the educational evaluation system of psychological crisis, let the child participate in social work, offer course of reducing pressure etc. to the junior-high school student more. If we love children, then let them get the real one happily. (reporter Ju Sheng)

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