China stays behind to take care of things child's psychological problem appears frequently The highest educational way of the torture mark

China stays behind to take care of things child's psychological problem appears frequently The highest educational way of the torture mark
In the children under the age of 17 of our country, 30 million people are perplexed by various mood obstacles and behavior problems at least. Such psychological health problems as it is sensitive, depressed that 5.2% of the children of students in middle and primary schools of our country have obvious body, force symptom, interpersonal relationships. Except that countryside stay behind to take care of things children nationwide issue, ask someone, foster or have no time the intersection of cities and towns and " spirit stay behind to take care of things children " that take into account at home because parents are busy with the livelihood, treat with courtesy Appear more gradually, " the mark is the highest " in school and parents Education way " Shouting pain " Wear child's immature soul. The expert proposes, parents should build up mutual trust hard the bridge strengthen child's happy sense, by caressing the soul of consoling the children. At present, the number of people that national children suffer from self-closing disease increases year by year, only there were more than 150,000 self-closing disease children in Guangdong Province last year. In the present transformation period of society, especially in the big city where the urbanized process is fast growing, except that countryside stay behind to take care of things children nationwide issue, ask someone, foster or have no time the intersection of cities and towns and " spirit stay behind to take care of things children " that take into account at home because parents are busy with the livelihood, treat with courtesy Appear more gradually. School and parents " The mark is the highest " Education way " Shouting pain " Wear child's immature soul, and derive out a series of brand-new severe psychological health problems of teenagers. Chinese children released <> report reveal,our country is in the under the age of 17 childrens,let's perplex by various mood obstacles and behavior problems for 30 million people at least. Such psychological health problems as it is sensitive, depressed that 5.2% of the children of students in middle and primary schools of our country have obvious body, force symptom, interpersonal relationships. Mental measurement branch's general secretary, psychological institute teacher Chen HaiPing of Beijing Normal University of Chinese psychological society point out, the above-mentioned figure is only the data in 2006, still the growth momentum of rising is appearing in this trend. In developing constantly, material conditions a superior today day by day,it is so many should children at growth happies carefree why problems psychological will be appeared? What optimistic and positive, the upward conduct of sunshine and state of mind from training the children in the parents, school and pluralistic education of society is it? Emphasize simply the education of the competition causes student's depressed and anxious anxious disease of the students in middle and primary schools in recent years, the ill proportion has the tendency to rise. Anxious disease come from, study pressure mainly, until a one's own one take an entrance examination prospect, the intersection of family and the intersection of prospect, careerprospects,etc. and issue weighed down with anxieties for, infect children's thought, has corroded children's happiness. Chen HaiPing thinks, children face the complicated and numerous and complicated social competition, at the pressure of taking an entrance examination, lack and come from carefulness that parents and teacher offer it while taking good care of and loving again, various psychological problems appear very easily. Among them the mental depression are the most common particularly, it is sensitive and inhibiting, being depressed, confident in future, having no symptoms such as interest,etc. in studying to show as. Chen HaiPing thinks, students present the serious anxious disease, have already related to the making excessive demands of the family, also insufficient dredging, good at, having very great relationing in care of respect this with school. At present, our educational pattern is similar to the industrialized mode of production of products, an exquisite one is the scale effect, a teacher manages dozens of students, teacher's teaching task is strenuous, cause the teacher to be too tired to deal with students' lessons, does not pay attention to the emotion and psychology of the students too busy to attend to other things too, because a deeply worried and painful one of working pressure is not the health state, this is unfavorable to construction and maintenance of student's psychological health environment. Nearly 80% have psychological diseases to stay behind to take care of things in children The white cloud psychological hospital teenagers' psychology dept. of Guangzhou is in charge of Liu Jing to point out: "The teenagers coming to accept the psychotherapy, the majority has had strange lands to foster the history. " According to what the All-China Women's Federation will release in 2008 " to stay behind to take care of things in the national countryside state research reports of children " reveal, of our country countryside stay behind to take care of things the intersection of children and the intersection of total number and about 58 million people, 14 a under the age of one stay behind to take care of things children have 40 million more than people nearly among them. In other words, every 4 children have to stay behind to take care of things children more than one pieces on average. Study according to Wei ZhiZhong, famous psychologist of our country, stays behind to take care of things in children nearly 80% have psychological diseases in various degree, mainly shown as two kinds of inclination: First, getting self-imposed, introverted and unsociable and eccentric and not good at exchanging with peopling; Second, go against instead type, irritable and excited, mood is unstable, contain ability by oneself badly and having stronger antagonistic psychology,etc.. Take care of " conduct obstacle " Perplex the intersection of minor and sea Chen, very much point out, a kind of psychological problem should very much arouse the attention from teachers and parents while being flat, this is the student's conduct obstacle. The conduct obstacle means that there is a behavior which violate social behavioural norm or others' rights and interests of the damage corresponding with age continuously in 6 months. The conduct obstacle is to see a kind of dangerous obstacle to the children under the age of 18, shown as and attacked people or the animal (for instance, bully and humiliate, maltreat, curse and beat, use the fatal weapon etc.) , destroy the property, lies and steals, violates legal provisions and breaks the law etc. seriously, its early question is to go against instead, oppose provoking. The going against the uncomfortable response of a kind of psychology that demonstrates after finding the reason that the parents or teacher spoke in the past is impractical that or had flaws instead of child in adolescence. According to investigation statistics of foreign countries, the obstacle children of conduct account for total 2%- 6%, and go against the proportion objecting to being resisted and up to 4%- 16% in early days, there are more boys than girls. Studies have suggested, the easy companions of children of conduct obstacle grow or develop into the attention obstacle, play truant, run away from home, and break laws and commit the crime against the social behavior. Chen HaiPing points out, the conduct obstacle has certain inherent causes, but there are parents and unreasonable way function of education of school too. Used to wanting to ask and satisfied usually, once can't satisfy, child's heart will produce the setback sense and sense of loss, can't accept parents will form the animosity psychology while explaining. The animosity and discontented to show as, injure oneself sometimes, cause it from the incomplete, behavior of committing suicide, taking drug etc., will point to Shi Yu people or restrain people from injuring the behavior sometimes. Parents should build up mutual trust in the bridge voluntarily, strengthen child's happy sense "Stay behind to take care of things children generally think oneself is not admitted by the family, one's own existence is not important, so especially rebel against. Such as pay attention to, dress up, indulge in network, close behavior such as being self-, actually seek spiritual consolation, tap parents for ' love ' in different way. " Country second one Yao, teacher of psychological consultation, quick to think these society transition period at present, the increase of floating population causes teenagers " Stay behind to take care of things " It is very difficult to avoid, but the segregation of the region can save emotion estrangement by some moves. "The region isolates the segregation that might not cause spirit, parents should save consciousness, the greeting that it is only a telephone every day, it is possible Increase the child's happy sense. Once set up the bridge of this kind of mutual trust, is it unlikely to produce the enormous negative influence to isolate in the region? ! Is the unreal sunlight of �� of the coin idle? Chen HaiPing emphasizes, parents should communicate with the child more and exchange at ordinary times, tell child the intersection of everybody and faulty and deficiency, take, treat oneself and others' strong point and advantage objectively, the society gets along with the faulty and insufficient person, thus reveal child's psychological mistaken idea, enable them to face various questions gently. "In cybertimes, children face a lot of information sources and complicated and plural societies, stand the ideas of a lot of enticement and conflict, its ability is not enough to mediate these puzzledly, will often be in heart savings much wrong cognition and mood of the resentfulness. " Chen HaiPing says, " evil consequence that cause that these questions of the child's can not often communicate smoothly with parents' emotion. " The common situation is in life, parents long to see the son succeed in life on one hand, the expected value to the child is too high, under expecting child's high-minded idea leading factor, meet demands of child unconditionally on the material, spoil, spoil child, understand to the intersection of emotion and puzzled, the intersection of study and pressure and predicament of human communication that child face that it is insufficient to exchange on the other hand, cause child's mood to perplex, learn to have no motive force, escape studying, even detest and reject and study, have influenced the development of the study finally. Parents want, learn with caress the intersection of soul and sea Chen to console child, think parents' psychological problem to child while being flat, should proceed with four respects and solve. First of all, once find the child has psychological problems, don't take and reprimand the way to curse and beat. Understand the child is depressed or frets what, why unfilial adult it is, let he the psychology come out, finds out about his true idea, put forward treating methods or suggestions correspondingly a little more for its reference. Second, parents expect to cherish the rational attitude to the future of child. School grade and it takes an entrance examination to be only goal, should realize the education method of the child in the story of great man these from Edison, Einstein more. Should give child propose goal, understand and give play to to grow item child more practical, train the interests in many aspects. Third, parents should encourage children to participate in family life and family's difficult settlement. The ones that have already let the children understand parents kept house are difficult, produce the emotion to family, also let them have more understanding on life, learn the method skill that oneself overcomes the difficulty, train one's own willpower. Don't afraid the child will bear hardships and endure torture, otherwise deprive the chance that the child learns to grow up. Fourth, parents and teacher should pay attention to one's own training, Guan Ai's own psychological health constantly. Oneself psychology is not gentle, mood is unstable, will leave a legacy of trouble to the child's psychological health. Chinese archaism speak " Germany first after being " ,Only train the child's moral integrity first, can really give play to their ability in the future, otherwise apt to become the disaster of the society. Relevant to chain parents, might as well learn how about to phone child? Would rather would rather father has recently on business and many, but no matter in where, no matter how busily, will all find time to phone child. But what let him not understand is, 4 -year-old Ning Ning is always out of patience with speaking by oneself, careless eh give the telephone to mother, run on one side and play by oneself. But,etc. father come back going on business, enter door,would rather would rather meet always excitedly by he, become quite a different person with the indifference showing in the telephone. Mother of Nana phone, exhort daughter want, write homework conscientiously leave school, each time and don't watch TV, drink more water, not saying a few words, Nana will have been very impatient of, even make mother's telephone sometimes, mother of here Jeanne Na is angry and helpless. The senior psychological consultation division Ludgers of children of college of liberal arts, person of Beijing University of Technology, explain, these two parents are too puzzled to find out about the psychology of the child in the conversation. Though infant's emotion is blazing, very perceptual, they want to see, hear, smell, touch parents, can express love in parents, around parents strongly, the child will miss parents, even will cry in the telephone, but they have not learnt to link up the emotion with parents calmly with the language yet. So, is going out the parents whose difference misses the child should pay attention to speaking briefly, tone is cordial, the child hears parents' voice receive the comfort greatly. The children of one were having a class from morning till night last term, coming back home wants to see parents' smiling face very much, but because parents come off duty late or too busy to go home and disappointed. If is urging the child constantly in the telephones of parents, the grievance that the child thinks even more, easy to answer back. So advise parents to care about and exchange as the main fact with the whole respect about the child among last term, exhort and urge and stop before going too far. (reporter Xiang DanPing)

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